The self is relational. This means that who we are and how we function depends upon our primary attachments. If we come in to therapy as a single individual we carry the patterns of attachment of our birth family. If we come as part of a relationship or a family each member adds their own internal dynamic to the whole.

At Balboa Counseling, whether we counsel individuals, couples, or families, we do so in a holistic, relational context. We look at human beings as part of an organic, interconnected and interdependent system of individuals, all of whom must be understood within the context of the overall system. Each member has a role to play and rules to respect. Within the boundaries of the system, patterns develop that may lead to balance but also individual or collective function and dysfunction.

Our therapists have in-depth knowledge of the relational patterns that guide systemic interactions as well as the organizational complexity that drives them. With their guidance you will gain understanding of your own patterns of behavior, and how they relate to those of your multigenerational family. You will learn new and effective options for solving problems and for changing your response to the automatic role you are expected to play and how to move forward into greater integration.